I’m a Therapist and Coach with 40 yrs. exp. I’m in network with Premera Blue Cross /Blue Shield Insurance.
Jane comes into my office and tells me she dated a lot before she met her husband. She thought FOR SURE he was different, but low and behold, she has the same issues with him!
The men she has dated have been self absorbed, they think the know everything, they don’t listen to her needs. Oh, they seem to at first! They are so kind and pay attention. But after about 3 mos, they tune out. They also usually turn things around on her when she says she needs something…they will say things like: “You do the same thing all the time.” OR “I didn’t do that.” that is not what I said or that is not what happened.” And that, my friends is gaslighting! This is an OVERT narcissist.
There are also men that are Covert Narcissists. They are harder to spot, They look good on paper. They help little old women cross the street. But in their subtle way, they do the same things as the overt narcissist I talk about above.
So Jane has read and read and talked to her friends and her mother and sister and the woman setting next to her on the bus.
Now, I’ll bet her husband didn’t talk to all those people and read a lot of books. What do you think?
That is why this is for women. Women are the ones that are doing the work (mostly) to make relationships work.
It’s true, may not be fair, but that’s the way it is. You can whine and gripe about it, but here is the good news:
You really can make a difference in your dating and relationships. I know you’re worried that you won’t have a healthy relationship. You can’t figure out what’s going on. But, if you change what YOU are doing, it WILL change your relationships.
In fact, I”m going to give lots of tips, homework, and tell you exactly what you need to do to change things:)
So if you’re tired and frustrated and don’t know what to do next to increase the possibility of having a good, committed relationship, then keep reading:)
I have worked face to face with 1,000′s of people as a Licensed therapists for 41 years. I work fast. I’ve walked women through their relationship and dating problems and have seen them change. They stop doing the same things and have learned HOW to have a healthy relationship. And they’ve gotten MORE of what they wanted:) ( I’m not a miracle worker:)
I will size up your behaviors quickly, tell you what you need to change in a way that is non threatening, and guide you to make the changes you need. When you’ve been doing this as long as I have, I can tell you straight up what needs to change.
Sometimes people just need a quick way to turn things around so they don’t feel desperate and lost. Knowledge IS Power.
If you’re tired of the same old problems in your relationships, come on in and lets see what we can do to change it.
If you want to know exactly what to change so you can stop feeling confused and blaming yourself, then this really is the best option out there.
I’ll explain how you need to change what you’re doing, in a down to earth, easy to understand way so you can leave with clear guideline on how to move forward.
People have the same arguments over and over. The same dating experiences over and over. It hurts to not understand what’s going on, it feels like you’re just stuck and just at your wits end. You hate the frustration and worry and hurt. You don’t have to be stuck, you can SEE what is going on and what you need to do to change it. Most of us just don’t know how the heck to do it.
When you get clear about why you have these same arguments over and over: how to do things differently, you feel powerful and more confident and more peaceful about it. Then you can do YOUR part with power and confidence. With wisdom in your back pocket.
Let’s just start doing relationships the right way, the way that will actually WORK. For us and for powerful role models for the girls in our lives. It will of course help the boys too!
I am only able to take a few people at this time. If you’re interested, just e-mail me. We’ll have a short phone chat to see if we are a good match. I get back to you usually the same day.
Hope to talk soon and help you get free from the narcissistic men.