Conscious Dating for Women.

Are you TIRED?

Everyone has patterns :) I will teach you what yours are and how to change them.

Jane comes into my office and tells me she dated a lot before she met her husband. She thought FOR SURE he was different, but low and behold, she has the same issues with him!

Jane wants to be in a relationship and maybe wants kids. She is just TIRED! A lot of her friends are getting married, and she wonders what is wrong with her. It’s not that hard to figure out. It’s not that something is wrong with you, we just all have patterns. And tend to date the same kind of guys. It’s called Repetition Compilation.

You really can make a difference in your dating and relationships. I know you’re worried that you won’t have a healthy relationship. You can’t figure out what’s going on. But, if you change what YOU are doing, it WILL change your relationships.

You will want to work with me if:

• If you are tired of arguing about the same old things.

• If you want to know exactly WHY these arguments are happening.

• If you’re having the same problems in your dating relationships. (It seems like you’re dating the same guy!)

• If you want to know What you need to do NOW to change things.

• If you want to know your NEXT steps for creating a healthy relationship!

• If you want to know how to have fun dating and it not be such a chore…

E-mail or text me and we can have a short phone chat to see if we are a good match.

In fact, I’m going to give lots of tips and homework, and tell you exactly what you need to do to change things:)

So if you’re tired and frustrated and don’t know what to do next to increase the possibility of having a good, committed relationship, then keep reading:)

I have worked face-to-face with 1,000′s of people as a Licensed therapist for 40+ years. I work fast. I’ve walked women through their relationship and dating problems and have seen them change. They stop doing the same things and have learned HOW to have a healthy relationship. And they’ve gotten MORE of what they wanted:) ( I’m not a miracle worker:)

I will size up your behaviors quickly, tell you what you need to change in a non-threatening way and guide you to make the changes you need.  When you’ve been doing this as long as I have, I can tell you straight up what needs to change.

Sometimes people just need a quick way to turn things around so they don’t feel desperate and lost. Knowledge IS power.

If you’re tired of the same old problems in your relationships, come on in, and let’s see what we can do to change it.

When you get clear about why you have these same arguments over and over: how to do things differently, you feel powerful and more confident and more peaceful about it. Then you can do YOUR part with power and confidence. With wisdom in your back pocket.

Let’s just start doing relationships the right way, the way that will actually WORK. For us and for powerful role models for the girls in our lives. It will of course help the men too!

I am only able to take a few people at this time. If you’re interested, just e-mail me. When you e-mail me, BE SURE AND LEAVE YOUR PHONE NUMBER. We’ll have a short phone chat to see if we are a good match. I get back to you usually the same day.

Sue

Couples Therapy

Couples Counseling

Why People Come In:

• You have argued till you are blue in the face and nothing has changed.

• You talk to all your friends and they agree with YOU! But that doesn’t really solve anything, now does it?

• You have given up and there is dead silence…this will not work out well.

• You want your relationship back to when you both had fun.

• You don’t know HOW or WHAT to do to fix your relationship.

• You have a pretty good relationship, it just needs a tune-up.

• Someone has had an affair. You can have a good relationship after an affair.

Who Gets Results From Working With Me?

• You are ready to listen to what will WORK.

• You can swallow your pride and start DOING things differently so your relationship changes. You can’t change others, you can only change YOU.

• You can laugh at yourself. ( Newsflash.) We all are just folks and we all screw up.

• You are willing and ready to do some learning.

Who WON’T Want To Work With Me:) Not Kidding.

• People who think their mate is the ONLY person in the relationship that is screwing up. I promise you, they are not.

• People who don’t want to change; you are just coming in with your mate because they won’t shut up!

• You are sullen and had to be dragged in. You’ll just leave at some point anyway, so there’s no reason to waste your time.

• You can’t put your ego aside and listen.

• You don’t want any conflict, you just want everything to be nice and easy.

I tell you this because I really have seen a difference in which relationships get better while working with me and which don’t. If you don’t think we are a good match, there are a lot of therapists or coaches out there who will work with you, I can give you some good referrals:)

My Take On Relationships:

• I see so many people who are just miserable in their relationship. It can be worked out IF BOTH ARE WILLING TO CHANGE.

• People often just don’t know HOW.

• If you haven’t done all you know you need to do to make it work, you will always wonder! “What if I had tried harder, done this, or that?”

• If you don’t change what you’re doing in this relationship, there will be the same problems in the next. Don’t believe me? Think back.

• What did your past mates say that drove them crazy about you? What is your mate now saying? ????

• You don’t have to stay married, I don’t believe people should stay married for the sake of the institution. There are good people out there who want to have a good, fun life with someone.

• If you have kids, it is VITAL that you both do all you can to make a good relationship for your kids. Kids do best in GOOD relationships.

• If you don’t want to or can’t work it out, I don’t think divorce is off the table. Sometimes people need to divorce to be able to be better parents. And to have a good life.

• That’s just my take on it, want to be clear upfront.

How I Work:

• As you can probably tell, I am upfront and honest. I’m not mean, I just get to the point.

• I listen to each of you and see what you want and need. I teach you HOW to communicate in a way that has more likelihood of getting you what you want.

• We put it all on the table, what IS working, it’s not ALL bad. What isn’t working and what needs to change?

• I work fast, I don’t just sit and listen and hope you can figure it out. I give homework and directions so you can make the changes.

• I give support when things are hard and refer you to individual therapy if I think you need it.

So, If you want to make it better e-mail me me. And please add your phone #! We will set up a phone chat and go from there. Please leave your phone number. Let’s get it done!

My Background:

I use approaches developed by several people in my work with Relationships. A few of my favorites are Harvelle Hendrix, who developed Imago Therapy; John Gottman from the University of Washington; Michelle Weiner-Davis; also, Terry Real. I use what works for YOU! I don’t use just one approach. Again, my approach is very practical and respects each person’s point of view. There are specific things that can be taught to help couples have good relationships. If both people are committed to working on it, it can be good. Most people just aren’t taught the skills needed to have a good relationship; luckily, they can be taught. I do a lot of teaching in these sessions.

My Fees:

My fee is $225 a session. Sessions are 45 to 50 minutes. Insurance does NOT pay for couples therapy.

I am only able to take a few people at this time. If you’re interested, just e-mail me. We’ll have a short phone chat to see if we’re a good match. I get back to you usually the same day.

Hope to chat with you soon,

Sue